I'm Officially Done With the New Age (And I've Never Felt More Peaceful)

For seven years, I did everything the New Age told me to do. Gratitude journals. Moon ceremonies. Manifestation scripts. Chakra meditations. I was searching for answers everywhere except where they actually were.

I thought I had energy blocks. I actually had a dysregulated nervous system.

Here's what was really happening in my body: high-functioning freeze. It's a blended nervous system state where your sympathetic system (gas pedal) and dorsal vagal system (brake) are activated simultaneously. You're productive on the outside. Numb on the inside. Moving forward but completely stuck.

Externally, I was building a multi-million dollar business, creating content, appearing successful. Internally, I felt nothing. Couldn't settle into my accomplishments. Couldn't rest. Couldn't hold the good things I was creating.

This state is called tonic immobility. High muscle tone, high tension, but immobilized. Your nervous system doesn't feel safe enough to fully mobilize (fight/flight) or fully collapse (shutdown). So it does both. You end up frozen while appearing functional.

No amount of gratitude journaling, positive affirmations, or manifestation practices can regulate a nervous system stuck in this state. You have to go into the body. That's where the actual work happens.

The Jealous Secretary vs. The CEO

Here's the metaphor that finally made it click for me.

Praying to "the universe" felt like asking for a promotion from a jealous secretary who never let me speak to the CEO of the company I'd committed my life to. I was going to the creation instead of the Creator. Asking the moon, the stars, the energy field to give me what only God could give me.

The secretary kept me busy. Gave me tasks. Made me feel like I was progressing. But I never actually got the promotion. Never felt satisfied. Never felt safe enough to hold what I was asking for.

When I finally went directly to God, everything shifted.

Not because God is some external force I had to convince. But because surrendering to the Creator instead of the creation changed my nervous system. I stopped trying to control outcomes. Stopped grasping. Stopped searching for the next healing modality that would finally fix me.

I realised I wasn't broken. My body was exhausted from years of survival.

Safety Creates Magnetism

Here's what the New Age doesn't tell you: you don't attract what you want. You attract what your body feels safe to hold.

I could script a million-pound business into my journal. But if my nervous system was stuck in freeze, I couldn't actually receive it. Couldn't enjoy it. Couldn't rest into it.

Manifestation without nervous system regulation is like pouring water into a cup with holes in it. You can pour all day. Nothing stays.

The work isn't raising your vibration. The work is building your capacity to hold safety. And that happens through co-regulation, embodiment practices, and trauma-informed nervous system tools. Not moon ceremonies.

When your body feels safe, you become magnetic. Not because you're "high-vibe." But because you're regulated. Grounded. Present. Your nervous system has the capacity to hold what you're creating.

That's what I teach now. Science-backed nervous system regulation grounded in how God designed your body. Not spiritual bypassing. Not toxic positivity. Actual tools that build safety in your system.

I'm hosting co-regulation circles in February because this work can't be done alone. Your nervous system heals in relationship. In community. In spaces where your body can finally exhale.

Join the next circle - Feb 4th & Feb 18st

Download the free guide: Map Your Feminine Nervous System Through Your Cycle

There is nothing wrong with you. Your nervous system is just stuck. And it can be regulated.

Welcome to Soulla.

Tania